Members of the Vise Library were selected to review Insatiable. We received a copy of Shary Hauer's book for an honest review.
About the book:
In her professional life, Shary Hauer was a confident, successful, high-caliber executive coach who advised big-time corporate leaders around the globe―but her personal life was an entirely different matter. When it came to love, she was insecure, clingy, desperate, willing to do anything and everything to win and keep a man. Because without a man by her side, what good was she? InInsatiable, Hauer fearlessly chronicles her emotional journey from despair to hope, rejection to redemption, and self-hate to self-love, one man at a time. In candid detail, she relates what it is like to be trapped in the torturous cycle of love addiction―what it’s like to be forever searching, needing, obsessing, scheming, and agonizing for love, suffering from a hunger that never ceases―and what it takes to break free of that cycle. An intimate, soul-baring tale that sheds much-needed light on one of the least understood and talked about addictions, Insatiable is the story of one woman’s journey through the hellish, the humiliating, and the humbling in her single-minded pursuit of the most addictive drug of all: love.
Shary Hauer's memoir is pretty honest. She details the relationships she has had in her life and where they went wrong. These relationships transform her each time. She falls back into old patterns of gauging her self-worth in these relationships. A lot of times she neglects herself when she is dating these men. Or in the instance of one guy named James who doesn't call her for four days because he is moving, she becomes very distraught and miserable. When he does call or gives her a compliment, she is back to feeling okay about herself and their relationship. I have known a lot of women (and men) who do this. It is something very real and I think this memoir sheds light on that. She also finds that she is with men that need to be taken care of and that is ultimately where a lot of the problems are. She does some searching within herself and realizes that she has an addiction to love. It is an interesting read in examining her relationships and how she eventually becomes her best self. Not a lot people examine their relationships like Shary does in order to understand where they went wrong. Instead, a lot of times people resort to the same patterns or date the same type of people. That is what makes this book refreshing because sometimes we do not want to look at where we went wrong. Shary is very open about this and eventually learns that she must be important to herself in order to find the right person for her.